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People who engage in a fantasy bond value routine over spontaneity and safety over passion. They go through the motions of being together or involved but without bringing the energy, independence, and affection that once colored their relationship.

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Loss of Physical Attraction — When we form a fantasy of fusion with another person, we tend to eventually lose some of our physical attraction to that person.

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Have conversations become more practical or less friendly? In doing so, we really get to know them. We feel for them as people, independently from ourselves. This helps us to stay close to each other on a real level as opposed to out of obligation.

It helps us to form and strengthen a friendship that allows us to be less critical when giving feedback and less defensive when receiving it. All of these efforts nourish our loving feelings, overthrowing cynicism and upholding our attractions. Harboring anger — When we are with someone for a long time, we tend to catalog their negative Married and missing the spark and build a case against them that leads us to feel cynical. Are you acting this out in subtle ways?

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Sometimes love is just one sided and its all one person becoming so involved and cariing about pleasing his girlfriend, wife, or partner that you lose sight of yourself. What Im saying is maybe in instances such as this there never was a true mutually loving relationship, I know mant people that Married and missing the spark from this and sadly I believe my relationship is one of them.

When you fonally do realize it was a one sided relationship the emotional and physical shutdown starts, you begin to thi. I have also been in a year long relationship and am feeling lonely, unappreciated, and inadequate.

I feel the exact same way after 1 year. Constantly arguing, no intimacy, i feel more lonely within the relationship than when i was single. Very sad.

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I wish i never met this man, he has been nothing but trouble for my vibe sense of self my self esteem and my Rosalia KS adult personals image is ruined now, how could i let this happen? I trusted him, to love me and the facts are that he just doesntm and i cant make him.

Ill die alone here with him if i stay n i have no where to go forngiving it all up for what i thought was possibly my forever man, my last, my future. So wrong. So sad. Ive been married to my wife for 4 years now and ive been and still am happy being with her. Shortly after getting married we had a son and of course things slowed Married and missing the spark for us and we began to lose that spark and every now and then i did Married and missing the spark to try to keep it alive and thought that it was working.

But now my wife is telling me she only sees me as a friend and has lost that spark and has been feeling this way for about a year. Im devestated from this because i am so attached to her and our son and want Married and missing the spark be together for the rest of my life but shes starting Looking for nsa ladys not feel the same way.

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It will hit her like a freight train going full speed. In the meanwhile you can begin to gain self confidence knowing you are taking control of the situation. Always kill her with kindness, while at the same time holding to your standards.

She will realize…. Very one sided After being told the spark is gone.